To Go Or Not To Go?

•August 24, 2015 • 2 Comments

We are now a month into our journey and I feel like I have a little bit of time to reflect on everything that has transpired in the last 12 weeks.

I am currently sitting on my couch in Hanoi, next to Jett who is fresh out of the shower and having some quiet time before bed. If you had told me a year ago that we would be here I would of laughed, or maybe I would of thought please god I hope you are right, anything has to be better than the constant feeling of soul crushing depression.

I had been working for a local company, same old same old, Jett was at school and Jesse worked away.

We worked, went to school cleaned, cooked, did washing, argued about money, attempted to have a conversation and then went to sleep. Day in and day out. I couldn’t figure out why some days I didn’t want to get out of bed, why some days the act of getting dressed seemed unbearable, why sometimes I just couldn’t shake the funk, why my husband and I were not talking about anything outside the mundane.

I remember wondering if I would be happy doing what I was currently doing for the rest of my life. The answer was no.

Broaching the subject with Jess was simple, he wasn’t happy either, he was tired of always being away and not having quality time with Jett. Every time he was around they would bicker because they were not used to each other, the energy in the house would feel off and I would look forward to when he left again. Seemed a sad excuse for a father son relationship and a husband wife relationship.

We talked and talked about it, we didn’t know where we wanted to go, we just wanted to leave. But we were both hesitant to make the decision and act on it, not just because of the tenuous state of our relationship but also because it would mean pulling Jett out of school and taking him away from his friends and everything he knew.

But the more we weighed it up the more we realised we had to do it. What we currently were doing wasn’t working so we really didn’t have much to loose. We realised the worst outcome would be failing miserably, returning to Australia and separating. Seeing as things were so crap anyway it was a risk were were willing to take.

When we made the decision and began to sell everything it was like a weight lifted off my shoulders. Each time another item left the house I felt a little bit lighter.

There was still days of stress, planning insurance, where to go, what to do in terms of living arrangements once we got there, how long we wanted to stay for, where after that, winding up everything in Australia, letting family and friends know. People kept asking if I was excited but I was so bogged down in getting shit done to leave I didn’t find myself getting excited until a few days before.

The day that we moved out of our house and into our friends place with our backpacks was exhilarating. It was a journey in itself to purge of all the things you think you need to be happy. Even now I find myself chucking things out, things I though I had to have while I travelled but it turns out, not so much.

One month in and the path continues to open out in front of us, my gut is telling me we are right where we are meant to be.

There is a sense of peace and happiness between the 3 of us. Jess and Jett are spending quality time together every day, learning about each other and becoming friends. Jess and I are looking at each other, REALLY looking at each other, smiling at each other, talking to each other instead of at.

There is laughter.

There is love.

It’s been a long time…..

•December 10, 2012 • Leave a Comment

I feel so blessed that people still continue to re read my blogs when I have been a slack arse and backed off for quite some time.

I lost my motivation for blogging for a few months while I was taken on an unexpected journey.

Even with the best intentions life has a funny way of steering you in directions you never saw yourself. At the beginning (and usually at many periods along the way) this can seem scary, but even when you are second guessing yourself and questioning all you do, you tend to receive a little something that makes you carry on.

When I left my job and started working from home I had a general idea on how I wanted to do it, the kind of industry I wanted to be in and the kind of work I wanted to perform.

Totally changed.

But I do believe that it changed for the better, that instead of getting into an industry that has been around for a long time I have positioned myself in an emerging industry that people/businesses need.

And that’s the difference. Instead of finding clients they find me as I provide something that they need.

Though I believe I had to start where I did. I had to meet certain people to get the ball rolling to get me on the path I needed to be on to get me to this point.

But it just shows me the importance of being open to life and being open to all opportunities. And how when you have an open mind, an open heart and visualize not so much on what you want, but the person you want to be and the life you want to live, things will come along that will help you towards your goals, not in the way you probably expected them, but in a way that is perfect for you.




Productivity? I’ve Heard of It

•July 3, 2012 • Leave a Comment

Lately it feels like I am just tossing 100 balls in the air and seeing which ones I can catch.

Each day I really have to make sure each morning starts with a plan, if not, I’m doomed before I have even had a cup of tea.

Though for all the tools I have (ie phone/computer/notepads/diary) I wish I could centralize all my to do notes. They are scrawled everywhere, on the backs of envelopes, receipts, scrap bits of paper, my hand. For the life of me I cannot use just one device and it hinders me like crazy but I just cant do it. You would never want to go near my handbag, it looks like a waste paper bin.

But I understand there haphazardness.

I’m pretty good at recalling what phone bill or torn bit of paper last weeks phone call was jotted down on, though at some point I really am going to have to smack myself on the wrist, tell myself to snap out of it and really commit to just one central note taking device.

Until then I shall continue to wade through my paper kingdom.

I do find though, that regardless of what I have on for the day or what I need to accomplish if I try my best to stick to these points, I can rest easy at night knowing that I am slowly and surely moving closer to my dreams.

Know what your most important tasks are for the day

If we don’t have goals and priorities, we focus on nothing – we let the things that come up determine how we’ll spend our time.
Some of these important tasks are deadline-driven, but others are more subtle: they are the things that are important to do but that we can ignore because they aren’t urgent. One way to keep these in front of our mind is to think in terms of RESULTS. In other words, if you own your business, these could be the tasks and activities that create sales, or bring in income. If you work for someone else, these are the things that you would be rewarded for with a promotion or a raise – they are the results your employer pays you for.

Work with your body clock

We all have times during the day when we’re more alert and times during the day when we feel tired or with less energy. For most people, the morning is their most productive time of the day, but listen to your own body. Protect your peak time and whenever possible, use it for activities that require thought, courage, or concentration. “Down” times are best for low-value or activities that don’t require much thought – errands, processing emails and mail, and filling out paperwork, for example.

Eliminate or reduce outside interruptions during that focus time

Turn your cell phone off and your email during that time. This one I really struggle with as I  feel they need to be available 24/7 – many times, though, phone calls and emails are simply used as crutches of distraction. So make sure you’re realistic as to how accessible you really need to be – the key is to balance responsiveness with getting the rest of your work done.

I try to check my emails in the morning, if there is anything super important I deal with it straight away otherwise I try and focus on today’s tasks and leave email scanning until after lunch

Relax and remember that the world is not going to end if you dont get everything on your list done.

I really have to work on this one, I constantly think that everything is super important and I am letting myself and others down if I don’t achieve things in record time. The only thing I am actually doing is putting unnecessary stress on myself. At the end of the day no one cares whether you achieve everything you need too. So its important to stop and take a deep breathe and not do anything for 5 mins, chill out, take a walk, get a cup of tea. Remember that life is for living, we should be enjoying each and every day as much as possible. Slow down your breathing, clear your head and become more relaxed and focused for when you begin to tackle things once again.

These points are all a work in progress for me, I continually have to  stop and reevaluate my day as I find it so easy to get carried away.

But I do know that when I try my best to follow my rules, my days run smoother, I tend not to stress so much, I am a better mother, better wife, better business owner and better friend.

I just have to get it happening every day! :)

Are you a Lover or a Hater?

•June 23, 2012 • 1 Comment

Today was a bit of an eye opener.

I’m lucky enough to have a supportive husband who dreams big and wants to live big. We have great trust and respect for one another and always try to lift one another up to be the best possible version of ourselves.

I believe that this attitude can be passed on to others and I love talking to my friends and hearing about their hopes and dreams, because I think we should be working to lift each other up.

I know that not everyone thinks like this, but you believe that your friends are your friends for a reason. To be your friends.

They are the family you choose.

Sadly today I found out that there were people in my life who were hell bent on negativity and tearing myself and others down.

It’s sad when the people you like and respect in your life, the people who you listen to and spend time with, are not what you think.

But I think this has come at a perfect time.

There is so much change going on (inside and outside) that I can’t afford to be around people that are hell bent on destruction. So only surrounding myself with people I respect and love, and who love and respect me can only be good.

It hurt today though, at first I really couldn’t wrap my head around it, but I have come to realize that if I should be feeling anything, it should be pity. What could possibly be going on inside of someone that would cause them to find joy in tearing others down? What is lacking in their life that they feel the need to try and destroy other relationships and friendships.

When I look at it that way, yes, all I feel is compassion. And I hope with all my might that one day they will become a better person and embrace the possibilities the world has to offer, and realise that friendship, support, love and lifting one another up is what it’s about, not tearing each other down. Otherwise at the end all that will remain will be bitterness and emptiness and a lack of true happiness.

So let’s be supportive.

Let’s work together to achieve our dreams.

Let’s have true love and support in our hearts for those around us.

Let’s catch each other when we fall and build each other back up again.

Because we can’t get to the top alone, and wouldn’t it be better if we were all there together anyway?



Does Your Mindset Hold You Back?

•May 23, 2012 • Leave a Comment

You know, I’m probably spending more time these days on Personal Development, than anything else.

It’s funny because I had heard people rave about these kinds of books, but honestly they were never me.
It all seemed a bit pointless, I couldn’t understand why anyone would waste there time on books like that, to me, the only way to get ahead was to work work work and focus intensely on my business.
And I always did just that, I worked really hard, would take off with a flying start and see amazing results, and then I would start questioning myself and my success and it would all implode around me.
And it imploded every time.
And secretly I knew why, it was because I self sabotaged EVERY time.
I would subconsciously start telling myself I didn’t deserve it and it couldn’t last, and every time I proved myself right.
Every single bloody time.
But I refused to admit that it was my own limiting self belief that was the problem.
Its easy to pretend something doesn’t exists when you refuse to vocalize it.
It took well over 5 years before I picked up a Personal Development book, and why did I pick it up? because my husband did!
I thought, ok, well my husband has pretty good judgement, he’s a smart guy, if I just go along and do it in support of him then it won’t really be for me.
Stupid stupid Pride.
So I picked up Napoleon Hill’s Think and Grow house wealth
And I never looked back.
I totally immersed myself in the book, I did the exercises he recommended religiously, I read it for at least half an hour every day.
I copied passages out which rang true and stuck them up where I could see them.
I looked long and hard at myself and my weaknesses.
I addressed those said weaknesses.
I STILL AM addressing those said weaknesses!
But every day I committed to the book I became stronger and more confident, less fearful of my success and less likely to self sabotage.
Now Think and Grow Rich is my bible which I continually refer to, and it was the first of many books I went on to read.
Some books were a wee bit pointless, written by apparent big guns, but even still, there has always been at least one thing I have been able to take from each book and implement in my life.
And I’m not just talking about the business side of my life.
EVERY SINGLE aspect of my life has changed because these books address YOU as a whole.
The changes I made to myself changed every area of my life, FOR THE BETTER.
There really is a reason these books are best sellers, its not horse shit.
So below it a link to a collection of the all time greats, these are downloadable and audio books, so there really is no excuse not to listen to them.
We are all wanting to change our lives for the better and achieve our dreams, but I have learnt that that change has to start on the inside.
Download the books, DO the exercises and witness the biggest change in you as a person.
A change for the better, a change that will affect not only you but all those in your life.
A change that you and others will benefit from.
Sam :)

**16 Questions To Live By**

•May 22, 2012 • Leave a Comment

Today is not so much a blog, but a list of questions I use to make sure I am doing everything I can to attain my goals, live my dream life and become the best version of Sam I can be.

1. I thought I would share them with you so you could answer them yourself.

2. I think it would be extremely beneficial to you, find out a bit more about yourself, be truthful to yourself.

3. Do you have a definite purpose? if so what is it?

4. Whatever you’re doing, is it helping you get towards where you want to be?

5. Have you done something today that will add value to what you know and your state of mind?

6. Are you surrounding yourself with people that will support you and encourage you in your endeavours?

7. Are you taking care of your body and your mind?

8. Are you exercising, sleeping, eating and drinking enough water to have the energy you need every day?

9. Do you have people you can call on when you run up against bumps in the road?

10. What do you devote most of your time to, thinking of success or failure?

11. Are you gaining or losing self-confidence as you grow older?

12. Can you name 3 of your weaknesses? What are you doing to fix them?

13. Does your occupation inspire you with faith and hope for the future?

14. How much time of each day do you devote to:

  1. Your job
  2. Sleeping
  3. Recreation and relaxation
  4. Learning useful things and gaining more knowledge
  5. General waste of time

15. What is your biggest worry? Are you doing something to get over it?

16. Above all else, what is your greatest desire? Are you doing something to acquire it? How much time are you putting into it?

I would love to hear your feedback, if you have any questions you think would be good to add to the list, any questions that will help us bring out the best in ourselves.

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If You’re 40 or More This is For YOU!

•May 21, 2012 • 1 Comment

I get quite a lot of older people interested in what I do.
I think people realize that Superannuation/Social Security/Retirement funds are not what they used to be.
The pension no longer will suffice. The amount the Government offers would barely keep a dog alive, yet it’s meant to sustain our nearest and dearest.

Unfortunately the majority of people who are interested, refuse to find out any more about it, thinking that anything to do with the Internet and technology will be far too complicated for them.

It seems people develop an inferiority complex around the ago of 40 upwards, believing that they are ‘slipping’ because of their age. When funnily enough our most useful years (mentally and spiritually) are between 40 and 60.
They can find themselves speaking apologetically of themselves for being ‘old’ only because they have reached a certain age, instead of turning it around and expressing gratitude and thankfulness for reaching the age of wisdom and understanding.

Why kill off your initiative, imagination and self reliance just because you think you are too old to exercise these qualities you have?

You should be grateful for getting through your hellish teens and 20’s where your trying to get a footing in the world and find out who you are.
You should be happy you made it through your 30’s with your kids and all the ups and downs that brings.
By the time your 40+ you know who you are, you are happy with who you are, you know what you want out of life and you have the freedom and the time to make it a reality.
You have a clear picture in your head and a maturity and understanding you never had before.

This is the time to be embracing change, chasing your dreams and seizing every opportunity you can.

We need to eliminate the fear of old age by reaching a decision to accept it, not as a handicap, but as a great blessing which carries wisdom, self control and understanding not known to youth.


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