Excuses hold us Back!

I have found through dealing with other people that although people may want to change the situation they are in, they literally have no idea where to start.

Here are some of the most common feelings or excuses people have mentioned, and ways to deal with them.

1.       The Mountain just seems too big.

Stop looking at the Mountain! Yes we all have to have a goal or vision about why we are doing what we are doing, but we must take it one step at a time. Rome wasn’t built in a day.

2.       I don’t really know what I want.

In terms of Goals, break it down into realistic time frames, 6months, 1 year, 5 year, 10 years – Start with general things (buy a house, travel, exercise more), then break those things down (ok, you want to buy a house? When? Where? How much deposit do you need?)  Stick them up or have them somewhere handy, and add to them as you think of other things that are important to you or you want out of life.

3.       I can’t do it.

Believe it’s possible and look for new, different and better ways to attain your goal or solution.

I find little things like donating regularly to a charity can instantly improve the way I am feeling about myself, I instantly feel like I have done something selfless and something that matters which gives me a deep feeling of satisfaction.

When I have this calm feeling I find it easier to think of aspirations for myself and with this comes a feeling of Self Belief. You can also draw inspiration from the Web, Books or people around you, when you see or hear something you like, write it down and stick it up somewhere where you will see it every day, the primary purpose of our brain is to do what we tell it, so when it’s on paper its black and white.

Belief is the first step; belief gives you the confidence to say “ok what do I need to do to accomplish my dreams?”

A great one I heard the other day was to take a lipstick to your mirror and decorate it with all the great things about you, and the person you would like to be. You couldn’t ingore that!

4.       What if I fail and loose everything?

Really be honest with yourself and think about what is the worst possible thing that could happen if you failed? Would you go bankrupt? Lose your house? Be laughed at? Could you recover from it? Make a list of your worst case scenarios and how you could deal with them if they happened. When you have addressed them you will realise you have nothing to be afraid of, it can all be recovered from. If we can remove that fear then we are free to have a shot without being overly concerned about the negative consequences.

5.       I can’t hang out with successful people, I’m not successful.

Why not? What could possibly make you so unworthy that you shouldn’t surround yourself with successful inspirational people?

You are who you hang with. So aim to surround yourself with the best.

6.       I can’t ask for help, people will think I am an idiot.

There is a reason I have a mentor, it’s because I don’t know everything. There is also a reason why these people are earning 7 figure incomes, it’s because they are the best at what they do, and I would be stupid not to take advantage of having them a phone call away. There is no such thing as a stupid question, guaranteed if you are thinking about it someone else will be too. And by refusing to ask for help the only person you are holding back is yourself, I have a lot more confidence in achieving my goals knowing that if I mess up I can pick up the phone and there will be someone there who can help me to find a solution.

We can’t just expect to get it right from the get go, on our own. There are people out there who have already made thousands of mistakes and gone on to become the best at what they do, so we should make the most of their knowledge and expertise to avoid making those same mistakes ourselves. The best way to learn is observe, take notes, ask question and then put in place what we have learnt and continually develop those skills by asking more questions and observing more great people.

So I hope this helps you, if you find it inspiring print it out! Because we need to stop making excuses and start making a difference  🙂

stop making excuses, make a difference


~ by Sam on April 13, 2012.

2 Responses to “Excuses hold us Back!”

  1. Great points Sam. Would love to also see this as an audio or video; show your passion with your voice.

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